Dezvoltare personală și profesională, cu cap și cu drag 'Smart with Heart' personal&professional development
A friend of mine once stated that corporations are no place for spiritually developed individuals and that we are more likely to find them in creative-related pursuits like arts and crafts.
I felt awkward back then as I was working for a corporation and I honestly felt I was on a right path spiritually without having the need to spend all my day writing and reading poems and talking about the immortality of the soul. So I though about it. I wondered if it’s all just about sales and revenues and people happily acting in the story of “money makes the world go round”. About a certain kind of power that has little to do with inner vision and strength and much to do with showing off ones possessions and outer accessories (like status, for example). Are corporations exclusively relying on material values, or do they acknowledge the need for spirituality, but for obvious reasons, do it “underground”?
And this one term came to my mind: team spirit. And one question: why is it that, when it comes down to the final choice in a recruitment or promotion process, everybody prefers a team player? What is team spirit, if not the corporate way of saying what we normally put as “sharing and caring for others”, which is one of the attributes of an evolved spirit. Especially since, in corporations, others are hardly our family or people we are emotionally attached to and thus inclined to include in our thoughts and actions, let alone risk the immediate achievement of our objectives for their development. Why should we take the longest road, or the hardest, for someone else’s sake?
Although we like to believe that team players include others in their success because they have in mind the company’s interest or they have come to live by some company values, the truth is, team players are the ones who create and inspire such values. (By the way, in my opinion, this is what makes The Difference, because when it comes down to efforts and time and work everybody is willing to share these with everybody else; but sharing success is a different story.) And that’s due to their intrinsic ability, as spiritually evolved human beings, to care about and enjoy the presence and the contribution of other people. And most importantly, to believe in other people, to believe that we all have a purpose together as opposed to “me against the harsh cruel world” that self-centered individuals have. Those who consider themselves the only creatures that matter in this universe will always start a battle to take on the world and put everyone at their feet to admire their greatness. How about Inspirers? When they already have the entire world within themselves, will they need to conquer something that already belongs to them? Do they need to live by contrast or opposition, or are they aware of the beauty of diversity?
The short version of this would simply be that team players believe. And they do it because they are used to believing in something – whether they call it Divinity, Good Will or by any other name. Because, in the end, team spirit is an act of faith. And corporations know that this is the foundation of any long-term success story. And they need believers, especially during tough times. They need people who are comfortable with and used to envisioning a reality that has yet to come into being, but one that nevertheless will do so. A reality that includes all. By contrast, what reality could a “me, me only” type of person envision? Exactly. Plus, it would come as no surprise to anybody. Which is not just unproductive, but also boring. How many success envisioning stories about the same person can you listen to? How many times have you been inspired by a self-centered professional, no matter how successful?
Usually, those marching in front of us with their achievements can only create a gap between us, because the initial reaction would be to confer that success, those achievements to personal abilities that we may not have (especially do not have that exact combination that leads to those results). And we say “well, I can’t do that. I don’t have that ability or that talent, I’m too different. If this person is successful and is so much not like me, then what can I achieve if not the opposite of success?” Which is exactly what showing off aims for. It is this kind of reasoning that self-centered individuals bet on to never ever let anybody even aspire to the world they are (in their dreams!) taking over. And so, that successful self-centered person only stands to proudly remind everybody else to doubt themselves.
However, by believing in you and your role in a bigger equation, the team player not only gives you the chance to contribute and demonstrate your talents, but also extends their good nature upon you, inspiring you to discover your hidden inner “gems” and reinvent yourself. Many of us owe our “springboard” as well as strengthening our belief in ourselves to such inspirers who, in most cases, weren’t even appointed by the corporation to do so. They are usually not our direct superiors. And they (the latter) don’t even know it. They think it was their magic working on us. This is a reality of which I am not sure all corporations are aware of. Most of them make the mistake of thinking that inspirers can be created by some program, whether they call it training, workshop, conference etc., when, in reality, it has little to do with what you learn and more with how you feel. And with how natural you feel when encouraging people to become a brighter self. It has to do with how you relate to fear. Fear of giving somebody the opportunity to do something that you can’t, or think of something that you didn’t and you wish you had. Fear of giving somebody the opportunity to outshine you.
The way I see it, most companies owe their failure or not meeting “the desired results” to this fear. There is a harsh reality. In spite of extended development and training programs, mediocrity rules most company results. And it seems paradoxical considering that nowadays everybody is tested for IQ, EQ, behavioral patterns and technical capabilities, to mention just a few. We are dealing with good professionals here, there is no doubt about it. But most of them are afraid. And that makes them cling to their chair, shudder and reject any input from outside, especially the valuable one. Because they in turn have achieved their status with great efforts, having had to fight for recognition from their chair clinging superiors. So these good professionals start using most of their energy to willingly transform themselves in obstacles for others. It’s not about “what can we do to get there together” anymore, it’s about “what can I do to prevent them from getting there by themselves, thus showing off my superiority and infusing doubt in their own abilities, so they won’t think it’s that easy. I must reinstate my utility here.” Hence, the hick-ups in achieving company success, even in teams with individuals possessing truly outstanding intellectual abilities. It’s the ego obstacles, not the impossible sales targets!
We all know that spiritual development deals with fear primarily, as one of the most important steps to take in one’s life journey. Learning to stop fearing yourself. Which leads to believing in yourself as you are, which leads to stop fearing others because you accept them as they are, too. And when you put a lack of fear together with the belief in the interconnection of all creatures in the universe, then you see your own growth depending upon other people’s growth. And vice versa. We are One and One is all. Kind of like the musketeers :). As a “team player”, you are acutely aware of our purpose together, each with our own special part, each having our own special place that we don’t need to take from anybody else. So you do it almost instinctively. Sharing and caring that is. For your team. For the team you belong to and contribute to and for the team that is part of you and helps you grow. Because you take great joy in seeing others evolve together with you. It represents you. They don’t call you spiritually evolved for nothing! 🙂 So, my answer is definitely yes.
Which entitles me to a suggestion for corporations: replace personal development programs – which, as the name itself points out – are self-centered – with spiritual development programs, which are based on the concept of Unity. Think of it this way: there will be less downsizing and less bad PR if more employees would consider everybody’s interest when making decisions that impact their colleagues. Not to mention that you would be so much more profitable without all the ego obstacles in the way!
(foto: Pieta, Alexandru Ciucurencu)