Dezvoltare personală și profesională, cu cap și cu drag 'Smart with Heart' personal&professional development
I bet that even “the fathers of positive thinking” would agree: there is no such thing as everlasting happiness or perpetual success. Life is a sine curve; to expect any different from a breathing creature would be pure fantasy. So take a break today. Stop trying to be on top of it all today. Stop trying to be “who you should be”. Stop fighting that negative thought that is dying to come out and release you from itself, but you have learnt is supposedly preventing you from “getting there” – wherever “there” is -, so you are denying its right to existence. Stop giving your problems precedence in today’s list of priorities. If there is one thing that will always accompany you, it’s a problem. If not the one you’re having at the moment, then surely the one that will take its place once you resolve that. And the one occupying your mind after that and after that…
Leave your problems aside for a day, your inner battles between reason and feeling, between your ego and everybody else. Why try so hard every single moment, every single day? Don’t let Becoming become an obsession. But I have problems that need to be solved. If I don’t, no one else will! you’ll say. Well, that’s my point exactly. Since it is something that only you can do and only you will do – it’s not like somebody’s going to take your problems away! – you make the call on when to do it. We always tend to deal with our problems first and leave what brings us joy for later. It’s like we’re afraid not to loose them… Well, not today. Take a break today and make some room for you exactly as you are now. Make this day the day of what-is, instead of what-should-be, and celebrate yourself as you are. Take this day to be imperfect. Take this day to be fallible and breakable, childish and foolish. Take this day to play with your ambitions and ideals instead of letting them run your life. Own them today instead of letting them own you.
Take today to feel that you are loved for who you are. Take in the fact that not one of those who love you do it for who you should be, or might be or could become. Not a single one of them loves you for your potential. Although they see it in you, they love you for who you are right now.
Take this day to acknowledge that you are appreciated at work. Be thankful for that colleague who sees the difference that you make and has the nobility of letting you know that, so you can shine on (when most refrain from saying anything out of envy that you are shining). Be thankful for those who love and/or appreciate you now when you are not a “successful guru”. And remember them after you have gone back in the race and became one. Because then it will be more difficult to tell those who appreciate you for you from those who are interested in you only because they think they can use your light to make themselves shine brighter.
Take this day to count your blessings and start with yourself.
(foto: Buchetul cu maci, Nicolae Grigorescu)